Molly’s Story

Nov 12, 2018 | Dating & Healthy Relationships

The moment Eli and I started dating I knew we were different. We didn’t have that slow build of awkward flirting while we got to know each other. Our relationship was intense and passionate from the start. Everything moved so quickly I hardly had a moment to catch my breath before the red flags began to appear.”

The moment Eli and I started dating I knew we were different. We didn’t have that slow build of awkward flirting while we got to know each other. Our relationship was intense and passionate from the start. Everything moved so quickly I hardly had a moment to catch my breath before the red flags began to appear. Eli and I texted more in that weekend than we had spoken in person ever, he gave me his undivided attention and kept telling me how no one had ever known the real him like I did.

All of his compliments and the time he spent talking to me made it seem like we had been in a relationship for months rather than just a few days of texting. Anything I posted on social media was immediately liked by him followed by a flirty comment. I was happy to bask in his attention rather than question his behavior.

It started with small, almost unnoticeable, changes in Eli’s attitude. He would get jealous when I told him stories about my male classmates and friends. He claimed that he knew exactly what each of them was thinking when they asked to hang out with me. At first, I would tease him a little. I thought it was cute that he wanted me so badly. There was no chance I would ever even think about doing anything with my friends, but it was impossible to convince Eli of that.

His anger would shift to desperation, and I would immediately feel guilty for hurting him. I didn’t want to put him through that again, so I just stopped seeing anyone. I thought that what Eli and I had together was better than any friendship I could have.
If I pushed back and argued that I was allowed to see my friends, he would break down in tears sobbing and begging me never to leave him. His anger would shift to desperation, and I would immediately feel guilty for hurting him. I didn’t want to put him through that again, so I just stopped seeing anyone. I thought that what Eli and I had together was better than any friendship I could have.

There were moments when I saw my old friends walking down the hall together, and I wanted nothing more than to join them and catch up. I missed spending nights watching movies together when I didn’t have to worry about making anyone upset or angry, but then I had to remind myself that love is made up of compromises and if this is what it took to have Eli love me, then it was what I had to do. I stopped making any efforts. I barely participated in class; all of my free time outside of school was spent sitting in Eli’s room.

I was convinced that no one would love me like Eli did.

Joslyn’s Story

“I had been friends with Molly years before I had even met Eli, but when the three of us sat together during freshman orientation, it was like we had known each other our whole lives. At first, it was comforting to know that no matter how complicated high school got, these two had my back. But then things got different, and everything changed completely.”

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